Attachment Leads to The Dark Side

"Train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose." ~ Yoda

So I was watching Star Wars recently, and as the little green guy we've all come to love was giving his speech about how attachment is a direct path to the dark side, I realized that he has a point. Okay, so maybe we won't all turn into an evil sith lord for being too attached to things, but he still has a valid point; attachment can lead to quite a lot of suffering and despair if not treated the right way.

 Attachment Stands in The Way of Progress

Attachment to people and things can be a great part of life, but when taken too far, it can easily get in the way of progress. If you're too attached to everything you have now, how will you ever be able to change things for the better?

You see, in order for any change or progress to happen, you will have to let go of something else. Be it a habit that you have to rid yourself of, a relationship, or even your home city or country (as is the case for me), you must be able to let it go if it stands in the way of your progress. And the more attached you are to those things, the harder it will be to let it go and make room for the new things in your life.

Attachment Will Lead to Pain and Suffering

Attachment to the things around you isn't just dangerous to your progress in life - it will undoubtedly lead to a great deal of pain and suffering as well. You may not realize it now, but sooner or later, you will lose something you're attached to - and the more attached you are to that thing, the harder it will hit you.

Do you have something in your life which you could never see yourself living without? Most of us do. Be it a partner, a friend or a job, this kind of attachment is dangerous - because what would happen if you were to lose whatever it is you're so attached to? You'd probably be devastated. And in the process of developing your awesomeness, that's a very dangerous thing to be.

So how do you make sure you won't be completely devastated when disaster strikes and you lose something you're attached to? Well, fortunately, Star Wars has the answer:

Mentally Prepare Yourself to Lose What You're Afraid to Lose

So how do you make yourself less attached to something, or someone, without risking to lose your feelings for it? Well, the Jedi (Yes, we're back to the Star Wars analogy) actually present a great way of doing just that, as Yoda so finely explains: Train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose.

In order to rid yourself of your attachments and fear of loss, you should condition yourself to mentally let go of the things you fear to lose. For example: Say that you're terrified of losing your partner; the very thought of it makes your stomach cringe. Instead of obsessing over it, and being excessively clingy, you should mentally prepare yourself for the event of losing that person.

Envision yourself experiencing the break-up - imagine how you'd feel, and what it would be like. Then imagine what life would be like a week, a month or even a year after that. Life would go on, wouldn't it? The world wouldn't end because of it, and you'd recover from your loss.

I'm not saying that you should devalue your relationship though - you should still cherish everything you hold dear. But by doing this exercise with anything you feel overly attached to, you will train yourself to be able to let it go, should it be required. This will lead to two great things; 1. You'll get peace of mind, and won't be too driven by the fear of loss, and 2: Your world won't end if/when you are forced to part with the thing/person you're attached to.


Of course, I'm not saying you shouldn't allow yourself to be attached to anything, or anyone, in life - a life without attachment would be a cold and empty one. But in order to reach your full potential in life, you must take back control of your emotions and control what you're attached to, and the strength of that attachment. Over-attachment, and attachment to the wrong things will only hinder your progress in life, and cause you a great deal of pain and suffering.